Has your H ever tried Aricept? Or talked to his MD about things that can help improve his memory? Arcipet is a medication that is often used on Alzheimer's and dimentia patients. Now of course I'm not saying your H has either of those...but something like this might drastically improve his memory.....it's something to look into.
GEL
GEL...No offense taken whatsoever. I appreciate your thoughts and offerings on the matter. I spoke about the memory thing recently with my Chinese doc friend and now she's wanting to schedule H for acupuncture and a specific Chinese herbal remedy to help improve his brain function. Both H and I have moved away from conventional medicine for some time now (long story)so chemical meds aren't really an option for either of us unless there was no other choice. I'll let you know how the acupuncture and herb works out for H. I've had acupuncture myself in the past for insomnia and brain fog and it was amazing how alert and spry my brain became after the treatments. I'm hoping the H will benefit at least to some degree. Will keep you posted on that.
On another note...the past 4 days with the H have been heavenly. He goes back to work tomorrow and I can already feel a bit of panic setting in knowing he'll be sitting only a few feet from the LOW (lesbian other woman) for the rest of the week. I'm really trying not to think about it, but those thoughts are powerful in their own right. I'll make a point to keep focusing on the many signifigantly positive moments and times we've had throughout the weekend. We already have a "date" to ML again tomorrow evening...so something to look forward to.
I spoke to my Dad earlier this evening. He lives back East and hasn't seen my H since '97. As far as my Dad is concerned, H walks on water. I talked to my Dad about that friend of mine who's been having an A. Without any prompting on my part, my Dad voluntarily chuckled and said that I'd never have to worry about my homebody LDH messing around. I don't know why, but I found that remark rather comforting and signifigant to my sitch. I guess a little wishful thinking goes a long way. Thanks, Dad.
RIC said: -------------- ... he'll be sitting only a few feet from the LOW (lesbian other woman) for the rest of the week. --------------
Exactly. He will be sitting there with a stupid grin on his face thinking about you.
Consider slipping a perfumed pair of sexy panties in his jacket pocket for his discovery at work.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Running...said: ... he'll be sitting only a few feet from the LOW (lesbian other woman) for the rest of the week. ---------------------------------
NOPkins said: "Exactly. He will be sitting there with a stupid grin on his face thinking about you." ---------------------------------
Gawd I hope so.
---------------------------------
NOPkins said: "Consider slipping a perfumed pair of sexy panties in his jacket pocket for his discovery at work."
---------------------------------
LOL! Now this I like...I'm going to try this for tomorrow.
Thanks so much for your encouragement. I'm surprised at how "frail" I'm feeling about this after having had such a happy and loving 4 day weekend with the H. Right now it feels like I'll never get past these feelings of insecurity and paranoia. It's hard, but I'm working on it.
Alrighty...the perfumed pair of sexy panties are tucked in one of the pockets of the fleece vest-jacket he wears around the air-conditioned office. I just hope to gawd when he finds them he doesn't think it was a joke by one of the guys and tosses them into the garbage! LOL
Also, I had a bit of a backslide today, but the H gently came to my rescue. Will mention it along with the panty caper in the next post.
Well I tried, but... When H came to kiss me good-bye before he left for work this morning (I was still in bed)...he thanked me for the "present" I left in his pocket. He seemed quite pleased about it. I guess you'd have to be a guy to understand it. He laughed and called me a smart**s, but he left smiling and seemed to have an extra zing in his step. lol
Regarding the backslide I had yesterday. H sent me an e-mail mid morning to let me know his "group" was taking him out for lunch for a belated birthday celebration. His "group" of course includes "her"...there's 5 of them in total. I immediately got a rise of intense panic about the idea of him being seated close by to her for an intimate gathering. I replied back snippily saying I was sure he'd be in his glory. When he called me after lunch he made a point of telling me that the luncheon was a surprise presented to him by the group as a whole...to ensure I didn't think it was some private rendevous between the two of them. His tone was warm and careful so as not to cause me any upset. I could sense his concern hoping I wouldn't overreact about it. I took a deep breath and let it go...asking him what he had for lunch. This kept things calm and friendly even tho I was seething inside about her presence at the dinner table. I think it was his obvious concern about what my reaction might be that held me at bay. I still don't like the thought of it, but I'm glad I bit my tongue...and even more glad that he took care not to make an issue about it considering the snippy response I made to his e-mail about it. One small step at a time I suppose. It's over with, for now. God grant me the patience...
Quote: This kept things calm and friendly even tho I was seething inside
Stop seething. Just stop. Don't let yourself have thoughts about this sitch. Just plain don't go there. God WILL grant you patience, but you have to meet God halfway-- you have to practice. Having an attitude about the fact that this woman works there will get you Exactly Nowhere. In fact, your attitude starts to make the OW look pretty good. And I don't mean put on a smiley face while seething inside-- I mean: stop seething. You can do it.
Quote: Just stop. Don't let yourself have thoughts about this sitch. Just plain don't go there. -- I mean: stop seething. You can do it.
I hear ya and I fully understand, but as you know...that's alot easier said than done, especially at this early on point. I'm sure in time these situations will just run right off me...it's the way I am. But for now it'll churn inside me till it's run its course. But thank you for your encouragement...it helps.
One day while I was surfing this site I thought I saw a thread related to this very topic about changing our thought patterns on these things. Could someone direct me, please...and thank you.
The thread was about thought stopping. I think it was started by a moderator, so it may be at the to of one of the forums... for some reason the search function never functions for me...
