After all the work, begging, standing on our heads, does any "LD" mate finally fess up to "I really don't like you"...and then let all of us get to solving the real problem? I mean, if I like my "LD" mate I'm supposed to still do everything for them because I care for them...
After SSM, emotional talks, and what not. I simply am not liked. I mean if I withhold something she wants (talking) all hell breaks loose....but if she withholds are in not interested in sex....too bad.
I have a real significant issue with that.
It sucks not being wanted.
Like fishing story. If I like fishing and she hates it...it sucks to bring them and it suck to read about fishing in front of them....
I guess I'm not understanding your post all that well. Are you saying she has said she doesn't like you? Or are you asking if any of us has experienced that? It doesn't make much sense to me.
If she's stated she doesn't like you...you have more than just an LD problem on your hands.
If you think she's supposed to do certain things because she likes you even though she's LD...then I think you have some misperceptions and probably a lot of miscommunications.
Quote: After all the work, begging, standing on our heads, does any "LD" mate finally fess up to "I really don't like you"...and then let all of us get to solving the real problem?
Well yes and no. My h did a few years back decide to tell me he didn't feel about me the way a man should feel about his wife...that "it" was never there etc. of course most of that would be termed "alien speak" since he was involved with ow at the time. Thing is instead of being devestated by the news that my husband didn't see me as a woman, a weight was lifted...it explained all the lack of desire, rejection etc I had felt for years. Sure I was sad at the potential break up of the family (son was just to turn 3 and dd was a mere 6 months old when he moved out) But alas the confusion has returned...upon HIS decision to return to me he once again saw me as a woman, a viral sexual woman worthy of his attention AND affection but apparently has returned to no longer seeingme that way.
SO it really doesn't solve the problem to hear that they really don't like you unless they mean it and stay away forever.
sorry for the confused message. What I meant was: After I (HD) have begged my wife (LD) and done everything we are supposed to do. Followed SSM methods and DB methods...she still express little or no desire for me. The reality is She must not really like me. right? Because if it was reversed and I was not talking or whatever she wanted....and I didn't change she would be feeling it was because I simply didn't care enough to.
After all the work, begging, standing on our heads, does any "LD" mate finally fess up to "I really don't like you"...and then let all of us get to solving the real problem?
Are you sure that this is her real reason as opposed to the quick answer that she thinks sounds good. If she's anything like my W the answers are not the same thing and her quick answers seldom, if ever, sound good.
Thanks for clearing that up. You have another option here other than "she must not really like me". She may just REALLY be LD. This is something that each one of the C's my H and I have gone to have told me. It is possible that this is REALLY who he is, and the way he is....can you live with that if that's what we discover?
Your W may love you dearly...but truly be very LD.
Yes I have asked...and the response is always overwelming Yes she loves me and would do anything for me...
As for the 'maybe they really are LD'...too bad! is my answer. Forever, we men have been told to change, be sensitive, talk, share.....for what...what if we just really are ....er, ah...MEN! And for HD women, you've been told to be quiet, understand, not be so sharing, so emotional...er, ah...you're Women!
don't mean to jump on anyone here. But I noted all these LD spouses on here will do most things but enjoy sex. Nice, that's like showering your kids with everything, money, etc except your time with them...it's all fake.
And yes we've had that discussion also. It turned into a bible discussion...her typically creative way not to answer a question.
Speaking of the bibile...must be why so many of the bible men have mistresses and concubines...so to have a robust sexlife and a wife. In many other countries, Europe and South America this set up is very common. I guess they just realized that a spouse and a sex life are different things and have learned to lived with it.
If your having bible discussions, you might want to inform her that being LD is against biblical teachings. It gives instructions to both the men and women in marriage, and if you actually follow these teachings, I really don't see how the women could comply if they are LD.
