I've been really busy the past couple of weeks and have posted just a handful of times on other threads.
We were supposed to move numerous times to an apt. complex being built, but it kept getting postponed and the latest opening date that they said now was November (it was supposed to be done in July). The whole thing was turning out terribly, I looked in an apt. book and found one that looked good, and we both loved it and should be completely moved in at the end of this week.
I'd also found a really neat place to get married online, and I've been working on the invites. I figure it will be mostly casual - I did find a wedding dress on an auction site for less than $100.00 (a name brand, new dress). The wedding will be pricier than we originally were talking about, but not bad for what all is included. We have a late November date set - and the only thing right now that I've been having problems with is getting addresses from BF and his family. It's so close, I really need them! I am usually not a nag at all, and this whole address thing is making me feel like one.
We were actually going to get most of our moving done this past weekend, but we had a hurricane (again). It actually was good in a way, there was a lot of packing and such still needed to be done. BF has been really good about going through everything as promised, and throwing tons of stuff out.
I guess that is it for now. I am exhausted and trying to get some work done. We have been back together for nearly 4 months now (well, over 3 1/2), and things have been going good. It has been stressful right now with the move and wedding and such, but otherwise good.
Oh...I have also been trying to figure out ways to manage our differences. Like..we are different on money (isn't nearly every couple?) I am really thrifty - I'll find a few items in a Dollar Store and walk around for a minute and think if I really want them. He is kind of the opposite - we had some Christmas lights here that I got at 90% off, and he was going to throw them away and just re-buy them after we moved since they were tangled. I was like "it'd cost $30.00 to replace them". He was like "it's only $30'00". To me, it's the small money that counts, and becomes big money.
So - we were talking about having money for each of us for spending money (he does earn most of the money). I figure he should have, at the very least, double what I have. That way I won't be hovering over his shoulder wondering why he's spending xx amount on stuff (i.e. - no nagging, I HATE nagging and have never really been one).
Anyway, there are a few instances like that where I want to nip things in the bud before they become issues.
Do you think you could get him to read a couple of books with you? I'm thinking specifically of Your Money or Your Life (a good book about being really conscious where your "life energy" = money is going, and whether your spending is really consistent with your values (like desiring an early retirement but spending $200 a nmonth at Starbucks would be inconsistent).
The second book is "Smart Couples Finish Rich" - I've only read Smart Women Finish Rich, but this book is very similar, I believe - a good all-round finance book that may help you both focus on saving for the future.
Also - remember to keep in mind what spending means to him. I'm the frugal one in our household, and one of the things I've had to learn is how important gifts are to my H, because of childhood issues.
I just bought the book about how to save $10.00 a day. I am hoping he'll read that too. He is the one earning the bulk of the money, most of what we'll live on - so I don't want to hover over him on everything. He isn't big on receiving gifts that I've ever seen. He can be very generous on giving them. I have already set up a preliminary budget, though that may need to wait until the wedding is paid for in a month or so.
He'll not think about spending money here and there, I think about nearly every penny (except if I am giving something ot him or someone else, I mean mostly in regards to myself). He does want to save more money - for a house, retirement, etc., so hopefully we can get that done quickly.
It's been two weeks since I've posted in my own thread - it's been really busy, with moving and such.
Our wedding is getting closer, and I am so glad I found a place that makes it easy. But the wedding dress part has been hard. I was debating getting one - and I eventually found one online for a great price that looked pretty. Well, the shipping company supposedly delivered it to this address - the front office signed for it (I just found out today that it was supposedly delivered last Wednesday) - but there is no sign of it anywhere. The apt. front office will sign for things without seeing the delivery, and the delivery companies just store the items. That doesn't seem right to me.
I am asking the delivery companies to not delivery anything to the front office now. In this case, there wasn't any sign that the company even came to our apt. to try to deliver the dress. They also didn't put the information in the delivery log in the office that they delivered anything for me. And there is nothing in the storage closet.
Sorry, just venting. I don't have long to get this taken care of, and I don't understand why the complex signs for things without even making sure they are really delivered.
Otherwise, things have been going good - just busy unpacking and such.
Hey dfb, Sorry I haven't posted to you in forever. I am also sorry to hear about the dress being MIA. I hope they find it soon. Good to see you post. Take care! Debi
Our wedding is a few weeks away - and thankfully I feel I finally have a handle on things. It will be a very simple wedding - I am not interested in being "princess for a day" or anything like that. It is going to be more expensive than we'd planned - I was hoping to stay under $1500 at the outset, but it will be over $3000.00 (including everything). That is even with me buying the cake and flowers at the Warehouse Club (that will be very inexpensive), and doing our own invites and such.
I've had to really adjust again to not doing things just for myself - and it can be hard sometimes. But it's worth it. We really take care of each other in some ways, and I like that. But I'm making sure to make time for friends, and have my own life - I can't let myself be only dependent on any one person for my happiness.
Hope everyone is doing well, I do read here every few days and respond some, I'm just really busy right now.
It's so close, I really need them! I am usually not a nag at all, and this whole address thing is making me feel like one.
Oh goody