HELLO ME AND MY WIFE OF 7 YEARS ARE ON THE VERGE OF CALLING IT QUITS, WE HAVE TWO BEUTIFUL BOYS 5 AND 17 MONTHS, OUR MARRIAGE HAS BEEN ON THE ROCKY SIDE EVER SINCE THE FIRST CHILD WAS BORN, WE HAVE HAD A MAJOR COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN IN OUR MARRIAGE,THE VERBAL ABUSE HAS TAKEN IT'S TOLL ON ME AND I AM TO THE POINT OF WALKING AWAY AND NEVER TURNING BACK, I DO SUFFER FROM DEPRESSION AND HAVE HAD AN ADDICTION TO DRINKING BUT I HAVE GIVING UP DRINKING AND MOVED ON FROM THAT BUT FOR THE VERBAL ABUSE MY WIFE HOLDS MY DEPRESSION DISORDER AGAINST ME AND USES IT IN ALOT OF OUR ARGUEMENTS, I AM FED UP WITH IT BUT I STILL LOVE HER AND I WANT TO WORK THINGS OUT BECAUSE I DO NOT BELIEVE IN DIVORCE, I FORGOT TO MENTION THAT ABOUT 7 MONTHS AGO I WAS LED INTO A TEMPTATION I HAD ENDED TALKING TO A PERSON THAT WAS YOUNGER THAN ME OVER THE PHONE AND ON THE INTERNET BUT TALKING WAS AS FAR AS IT WENT, MY WIFE FOUND OUT AND AT FIRST I DENIED IT BUT THEN I SPILLED THE BEANS TO HER AND LET HER KNOW OF THE WHOLE SITUATION,AT FIRST SHE WANTED ME OUT OF THE HOUSE BUT THEN SHE DECIDED THAT WE COULD WORK ON THINGS, BUT THE PROBLEM I HAVE IS SHE IS NOT WORKING ON THINGS AT ALL SHE IS ACTUALLY TALKING TO SOMEONE HERSELF, I FOUND OUT AND CONFRONTED HER ABOUT THIS MYSTERY MAN AND SHE SAYS IT IS A FRIEND BUT I BEG THE DIFFER, SHE ONLY TALKS TO THIS PERSON WHEN SHE IS AT WORK AND WHEN I AM AT WORK AND BRAVELY SOMTIMES WHEN I GO TO BED AT NIGHT, AND THIS IS WHERE WE STAND ON THIS SHE IS VERY SECRETIVE ABOUT THIS PERSON, SHE WANT TELL ME WHO HE IS OR EVEN HIS NAME BECAUSE SHE THINKS I WILL DO SOMETHING STUPID TO HIM BUT I AM NOT MAD AT HIM I AM MAD AT HER BECAUSE 2 WRONGS DON'T MAKE A WRIGHT AND I CAN'T BELIEVE SHE IS DOING THIS HELP ME PLEASE BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO LOSE MY FAMILY.
I was wondering if you are doing anything for your depression? Do you take pills, see a counselor go to the gym or anything that helps? My H suffers from depression and it took him a long time to admit it but he is doing all the above. Maybe your W needs to understand it a little better. My H moved out 3 months ago and is still up and down with moods but I have a small understanding of depression and continue to learn more to help him every day.
Even if your W isn't wiling to help with it you need to do this stuff for yourself. the better you get the easier it will be to focus on your M and really start DBing.
Me:32 H: 34 T: 12 YEARS M: ALMOST 5 S: 8 D: 4 S: 14 (OTHER R) SEPERATED: 03/09/07 (but wanted to work on it) NEW SEPERATION: 27/11/07 (doesn't know what he wants) MOVED HOME 12/01/08 I'm acting as if this blue sky is never going to rain down on me....Sara Evans
