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dunnm #2943765 02/22/23 02:42 AM
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Callin LH - is anybody home?


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dunnm #2943784 02/22/23 06:21 PM
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I haven't always agreed with what LH says, but he was active, and has been around for a long time. The timing of this couldn't have been worse considering how many new people are coming around right now.

Why can't the mods just tell us what happened, or at least if it's temporary this time.


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dunnm #2943829 02/23/23 05:38 AM
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LH plainly carried a lot of the load in helping the newcomers. We won't be able to replace him and the newcomers will suffer for it. Given the experience most of us shared on BD and the words that followed from our exes, it is hard for me to see how anything he wrote since his first vacation could have offended anyone. It has to be what he wrote before that vacation.

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Originally Posted by Spiral
LH plainly carried a lot of the load in helping the newcomers. We won't be able to replace him and the newcomers will suffer for it. Given the experience most of us shared on BD and the words that followed from our exes, it is hard for me to see how anything he wrote since his first vacation could have offended anyone. It has to be what he wrote before that vacation.
When was that vacation?


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dunnm #2943836 02/23/23 12:22 PM
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Where is LH from? Was he a counselor, or just a person who was able to convey to people what needs to be done due to experience.


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Spiral #2943858 02/23/23 05:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Spiral
LH plainly carried a lot of the load in helping the newcomers. We won't be able to replace him and the newcomers will suffer for it. Given the experience most of us shared on BD and the words that followed from our exes, it is hard for me to see how anything he wrote since his first vacation could have offended anyone. It has to be what he wrote before that vacation.
I need some help from the ladies posting here who may want to help over in Newcomers. I'm not going to be around as much moving forward and there are some people who really need help there. I've been trying to back-fill for LH, not that any one of us can replace another... I'd appreciate any input on some of the newbies' threads that specifically any ladies here can provide - not that you gentlemen aren't appreciated, but there is that Venus-Mars thing, which is real. Feeling a woman's perspective as well as a man's in the Newcomers section would be especially helpful to those hurting the most. Thanks in advance lovelies xoxoxo and if I don't have a chance to say it later --- I've appreciated the help I've received here more than I can say. Much love and peace!


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dunnm #2943859 02/23/23 05:50 PM
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I have to say...I'm a little disheartened about the LH situation. To the point I've felt like pulling back a bit myself.

I fully understand we as posters don't "own" the board. However, we have invested a lot of our time and energy into it, not only sharing our personal experiences to get advice but also to give help to others going through difficult times. Some for a few years; some a decade or two. As others have mentioned LH was a heavy lifter in the Newcomers section, helping more there there (myself included) over the last few years than most, and his absence absolutely will hurt the support provided. That is evident even in this thread posters as posters we haven't heard from lately have chimed in to ask about his status. Since he was welcomed back after the Travel/CW dispute I haven't seen him post anything which would be considered controversial.

DnJ, job, cadet - I assume you're reading these posts. Are we going to get an explanation on what happened? And will LH have an opportunity to come back?


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I for one have valued and reflected upon LH’s perspectives and ideas with appreciation if not always with agreement or adherence to my personal gain or loss. Feels like another loss not to have him here.


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He was the person who told me , as other to an extent, what I needed to hear, not what I wanted to.


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dunnm #2943892 02/24/23 12:43 PM
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Well every mod has been active since this thread was started. We obviously aren't going to get an explanation, any information, or even if it was a temp or perm ban.

Well maybe LH can just make a new account and start over.


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