10-year divorceaversary - 12/12/23 07:37 PM
Can't believe it's been ten years. It feels like the fastest decade of my life while also feeling like a 100-year old war. While I have an incredible amount to be grateful for, and trust me, I am filled with gratitude almost daily, the abuse from the Narc ex hasn't stopped. In fact, it's escalated every year since her affair and our divorce.
I'm not coming on here to whine and complain, just to say that after all these years, the only thing I can think to do is keep doing what I'm doing. Be there for my boys like I always have been (I have them M-F for school and one weekend/month). Let them know they are safe, seen, heard, and loved. But as my oldest starts HS next year (wild), I have to accept that my life may never change.
My XW's mental illness predates meeting me, and will probably be something she has until the day she dies. The way she hates me is impossible to comprehend. This acceptance is probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. Significantly harder than any part of the last decade.
To all of you of that are in the same boat, which is know is a lot of you, just keep going. Pray that truth wins in the end and that it's a very long road.
I wish you all the best, any to those of you who are farther down the road that I am, I'd love to hear your perspective, advice, and wisdom.
-mvg
I'm not coming on here to whine and complain, just to say that after all these years, the only thing I can think to do is keep doing what I'm doing. Be there for my boys like I always have been (I have them M-F for school and one weekend/month). Let them know they are safe, seen, heard, and loved. But as my oldest starts HS next year (wild), I have to accept that my life may never change.
My XW's mental illness predates meeting me, and will probably be something she has until the day she dies. The way she hates me is impossible to comprehend. This acceptance is probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. Significantly harder than any part of the last decade.
To all of you of that are in the same boat, which is know is a lot of you, just keep going. Pray that truth wins in the end and that it's a very long road.
I wish you all the best, any to those of you who are farther down the road that I am, I'd love to hear your perspective, advice, and wisdom.
-mvg