I will say it again D when you want to D. When nothing she says can change your mind. 40 is very young in these situations. You have plenty of time to make all the changes you need to make, spend quality time with your young kids. You said your M is low conflict so living together shouldn’t be an issue. Let’s face it as a stay at home mom your W is going to take you to the cleaners in the settlement.

I know women like your W and it’s highly unlikely she is going to change her mind without significant time and space to understand what she really gave up. I like R2Cs advice for new relationships but this advice doesn’t work on WWs.

I am sorry but there is no easy way out of this mess.