D, I had no idea this was the story of your DDay. I recall looking for your history when I first joined but I think your old threads had been hidden.
I now have a small bit of insight into why your advice seems so profound: you have walked through fire. My God man - I cannot imagine. I have dealt with the pain of my sitch which at times felt endless but I cannot imagine a shock like that.
Aphexx - I hope you take from this post what I did. That feelings are fleeting and will pass, both the good and the bad. And just like the good feelings we all once felt with our spouses have passed so too will the bad ones we must endure now. The cheat code for that process is getting busy. I went skydiving last weekend and I'll tell you something: I was not thinking of W as I was falling to earth at one thousand feet every five seconds. That's an extreme example, but it also applies to reading a book. Hard to think about anything else when you're mind is being occupied.
