Do you "want" your partner, or do you "need" your partner?
If you "need" your partner, you'll get caught up in a whirlwind of desperation to "get them back". You're going to jerked around, "reacting" to every situation that comes along.
All of your energy will be focused on changing yourself to become the person that THEY want you to be, instead of concentrating on being a person that YOU want to be.
Your life can become an empty vacuum that sucks the life-force out of everyone that comes close to you. It can be a drain to just be around you.
Learn to "want" your partner. Win them back and keep them by adding to their lives instead of being a source of negative energy flow. "Share" your life with them, and don't make them responsible for your well-being and happiness.
This is the best gift you could ever give to your partner, and, more importantly, to yourself.
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