Why would you follow a woman who changes her mind from minute to minute. Shes manic. You still feel some sort of need to fix her . You are still extremely codependent on her. And you are trying to skip the actual process. Your kids need serious stability . Their mom is all over the place and their dad wants to follow her. How is that solid and healthy? I dont understand.

You can miss what you thought things were. But you still are emotionally attached to her.