I feel you. I used to think Id want to hear that kind of apology, but now I would dread it. I wouldnt have him back on a silver platter, and Im pretty sure, if any apology was forthcoming, it would be couched in the most narcissistic terms.

I do love the irony of her cheating on him. And although a part of me wishes my ex could experience the pain of being cheated on himself, I actually hope his current wife sticks with him. She wasnt an affair partner (thank god) and Im hoping she will care for my ex in his old age so my kids dont have to.

Im glad his note didnt make you spiral. True detachment is a great thing!