WAW willing to try, for now (#2)

[mako]

Yikes! Nothing says "friend zone" like lunch on an Anniversary.

Well it was my idea, so I guess I've friend zoned her?

So one of the turning points in my sitch when I was in limbo was for Valentines Day my ex got me a card that I think was meant for a friend. That was my aha moment where I was like I got to just get out of this now. A month later she proposed nesting and I opted for divorce.

Anyways you have young kids so I understand you may want to play this out as long as possible. I still think you may have missed your opportunity by letting her back too easy. Gordie has thread in MLC in regards to letting his W back too easy. I think he is still in limbo 5 years later. Yo are not updating so I am assuming there is no movement.

Good luck with the lunch date!

This makes sense. No there is no movement. Much of my problem is that I am not sure exactly what I want, so I am trying to figure that out. Some days I am ready to just be done and move on with my life. Other days I'm not. The former is more permanent (yes I know nothing is necessarily permanent) so I won't choose that until I know I'm ready. But I haven't had the a ha moment yet. Maybe neither of us is all in right now and maybe I let her back too easy. Honestly, I was all in at the end of April, but as she waits I drift further towards wanting to to move on. I really doubt I'll still be in this same place in 5 years. I gave myself a year but I don't think it will be that long.

I personally tried to ignore my anniversary last year, but H wanted to recognize it. I told him I had plans that didn't include him. He told me to cancel them, it's a weird day, but we should do something. My best friends sent me flowers. H bought me dinner. It's turned out well but all of it was an internal struggle. I'm very interested in finding out what your W decided to do to mark the day.

Fun fact: "Traditionally, the 10th year of marriage is marked with tin or aluminum. Both materials represent the durability and flexibility needed to sustain a loving union."

Good luck Mako. I'll be thinking about you.

Thanks! I kinda wanted to ignore it, but also kinda didn't. I actually ignored Valentine's Day this year, this was about one week before BD. Her feelings were already pretty clear and I was curious if she'd do anything if I didn't first. She ignored it also. But I didn't feel good about it, so I decided I didn't want to ignore this.

I'm curious too if she will do anything. I'm trying to live without expectations but I tend to overthink things.