My bad.

I was more referring to the bomb drop in 2018 where she never did leave but said she wanted a divorce.

GAL is great. For anyone in any situation

180’s are good, but there are only so many people need to make. It’s not there is everything wrong about us that we need to change.

Detach, well, yeah, don’t make your every decision and have every emotion attached to your partner. That’s what detachment means to me anyways.

Obviously she says she throws the divorce word around. Not cool. What really needs to 180 is saying to wife “hey, this is the second time you said you wanted a divorce and now you say you want to reconcile. How can we get to that point together?”

I think LH is saying just leaving them there to do their own thing while they figure out what they really want is kind of BS. When that’s done, patterns are sure to repeat. If someone says they actually want to work on the marriage there needs to be open communication, a plan a s both parties needs addressed and the WAS shouldn’t get all the power