It’s not so much arguing and it is us voicing our opinion mostly based on past experiences. The problem is that Steve and May can tell you to detach, GAL and see what happens and guess what when you get bombed again there life doesn’t change on bit. Go back and read there stitches which are public knowledge and you will see there sitches turned around when there spouses fantasies got blown up and they became uncomfortable. Steve’s wife started to have to look for a job and was on the other side of 50 and she didn’t like that prospect. It wasn’t because Steve went to the gun range.
In my sitch early on I got fed up one day and was ready to call a lawyer. My ex did not like that and started back tracking. The problem is I let up and once she got comfortable again she started planning her exit strategy. Now this certainly could have happened either way but I can promise you WWs have zero incentive to work on the marriage.
Certainly taking some time to think things through makes sense. I just wouldn’t wait until February.
BTW your MC is a wise person lol. Also just for the record you shouldn’t force her into MC if she doesn’t want to go but if she refuses then you should 100% move on. Just one man’s opinion.
