Not much happened this weekend. Two of the kids didn’t feel that good so we didn’t do much. I did some work around the house. W got a negative covid test so she can go back to work (mostly working at home but has to go in once in a while).
W and I have still been getting along fine. I had been taking things quite slowly and was actually wondering if I was going too slow. Then this morning I cuddled with her in bed, which is something I had been doing lately, and she said “I’m not ready for cuddling this makes me uncomfortable.” So I said “That’s ok, you just have to tell me these things.” There’s my answer to whether I’m going to slow or not.
Anyway, I don’t really know what to make of all that, but I guess I need to keep taking it slow. She is definitely still treating me better than pre-BD, so she is in a positive place somewhat, but maybe she doesn’t really know what she wants. I will perhaps still try the more subtle charges and see how that goes. I also have to remind myself that it took a long time to get here, it will take a long time to get through.
I haven’t been doing a lot of GAL lately, but I’m going out tomorrow and probably Thursday so that’s good. I probably need to get back into DBing mode.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021