Thanks Ginger! I totally agree.

So tonight, before going to bed, XW seemed like she wanted to talk to me.
Kept staying in the same room and initiating. I think it is because its her last night in the house.
Eventually, she asked if I would like to come by her and the kids next week.
I didnt reply immediately and she filled in "you dont have to answer now, and its up to you".
I haven't really though about it beforehand but replied:
"Ok, I will think about if and when. But I nonetheless don't think it is a good idea this early on."


I will most likely say no, and my first feeling is that I dont want to go there at all. Especially if OM stays there from time to time.
Then again having the option to meet my kids more than 50%, long-term, is not necessarily a door I want to close.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021