Thanks for the support and input Steve and LH!
Yeah it isnt easy to just accept it but I brush it off quickly in 95% of cases.
Tomorrow is our "going though everything in the house"-day and in a week she is finally moving.

You suggestion is very good LH, it hints that I actually have feeling but they are not ready to be shared.
I have been thinking an honest "I'm not sure. I dont know him".

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021