Thank for adding Gigi! Thanks everyone for your perspective!
I thought about this last night and after your help realized I should just tell her what I prefer.
If she suggests something else we might need to discuss.

Thanks everyone! Now off to digital work!
My body is sore from really heavy gym sessions this weekend.
Try to eat 80-100g (about 3oz) of pure protein every day.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021