Primary input would be whether anyone thinks I shouldnít do it.
But any input on what to say or not is of course also appreciated.

Iím thinking of just asking her face to face when we meet on Monday.
No blame, just say I will be a better father if I know.

If itís a message probably the same style.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021