May, great post! I think after reading that I will back away from a lot of the things I've said. You've clearly thought about this and have considered a lot and seem to have a good idea of what you want and how to get there. And you have articulated that to your H. So I now understand your frustration a bit more. It makes a lot of sense.
And I too still have a crush on Winnie Cooper! Lol
Ha! We are watching the whole series with our kids (though now taking a break as the characters on the show are getting older and more and more just into girls, and they're a little young for it) and it has sparked all kinds of conversations with our male friends and family members. Apparently every male of that age still loooooves Winnie Cooper.
Thanks-- I'm an overthinker. Once I get through chewing on these posts I think I'll go back for a bit to my living in the moment and enjoying the holidays with the kids mode.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing