[Traveler]

I don’t know what to do now. My son has been lashing out at her, and at OM.

Simple—nothing. It’s her job to manage her son’s behavior during her custody period.

He says he tried to make me and mom fight so we talk. He told me that “he thinks OM is using mom to babysit kids”

Listen and validate your son.

]She blamed all this on me.

She free to blame anyone she wants—you, the president, or unicorns. Your point?

She told me “I’m never coming back to you” and she told my son that too. It crushed him.

Listen and validate your son. This is how she feels today. Tomorrow she may feel differently, but remember she’s a lying cheater, so hopefully by then you won’t take her back.

I have never once said anything bad or wrong to my son.

Great! Your point?

I never told him to go over there and do this and now she is blaming me.

OIC! This was a dream that you control her actions. You don’t. She’s free to do whatever she likes regardless of what you wish her to do. You control you. She controls her.

I tried to talk to her, explain he is just upset, she won’t listen. She blames me

Oof! Don’t pass go, don’t collect $200. You are supposed to be NC. This is a bid to control her. Drop the bids to control her. That’s best whether you want Reconciliation or A Good Future Free of Her.