This almost doesn’t seem real at this point. She was at her moms yet wanted you to meet her elsewhere? You allowed her to touch you? And than show you her boobs? Come on man.
I know you haven’t taken really any advice. But meet her in a public place and wear ear buds from now on when you drop the kids off.
Stop making excuses for why this keeps happening and accept your role in it. She can only do what you continue to allow her to do.
Good luck. I really don’t think I can add much more to this except continue therapy.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11