Yep I was trying to like get her to see reality. Try to make her see the consequences of her actions. After IC I see that I was trying to manipulate still. Which is why I wont be taking to her at all anymore unless she reaches out for the kids or its an emergency. The reason she kept running is because we manipulated each other back. That cant happen anymore. She must choose to be with me of her own accord or it wont ever work. And the way the therapist explained it today It doesnt make my day to day easier yet but I do feel that I really need to detach and let the cards fall as they may. I this will be my first straight 48 hours of no contact at all. The first 24 was really hard. Still hard now but its what I need to do its not like I have a choice if I want to get better.

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T:11
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K: D5, S7
BD: 9/1/20
WW moved in with OM 10/15/20
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I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021
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