Let’s say that your W expresses deep remorse and realizes she made a mistake by cheating on you for the 5th time, and she decides to come back.
Do you TRULY believe that she will never cheat on you again? Could you enjoy your life with her wondering which one of your friends she will sleep with next?
I get this is Divorcebusting and the goal is to save marriages. But you don’t have a marriage, Steve. She was never yours. If she was, she wouldn’t have had an affair, or two, or three, or four, or five.
You can DB like a champ until the cows come home, but that woman will never change.