I will finally start IC Monday, the VA finally got back to me.
Steve this is really great news to hear! My suggestion is to not waste a second with your counselor regarding trying to your marriage. Instead get to the root cause on why you are obsessed with a woman who treats you so badly. Also, try to seek counseling for your children. They are going to need a stable adult to be able to share their feelings with as they go down this road.
I’m not go lie you have a long difficult road ahead of you. I hope you are up for it.