FYI, I just read your story, not completely yet, only this last thread and I'm a bit shaken up. So strange to read this. BD was the same month as mine, the things you mentioned in your recap part, so recognizable.
Think this is the story most comparable to mine currently.
Will soon make more time to read your entire story.
Me (43) H (42) M:14 T:18, S16, S13 & S13 4/19 BD1 ILYB & OW1 until 02/20 02/20-08/20 Home 08/20 Moves abroad for W 12/20 BD2 wants divorce, I agree (possible OW2) 02/21 I file since no action from H