I tried to edit to add.... I understand that fear. I enforced zero boundaries before I was married and when I was married to my ex. I was in my 20’s and fearful of him leaving. So I had no boundaries afraid he would go. And he did! With another woman! He did it without the boundaries getting everything he wanted and how he wanted it. He would have done it with the boundaries too, but I could have held on to my self respect. Held on to my value. Now that I’m 40, honoring myself, my respect, my values regardless of someone else might react is very important to me.
After getting cheated on the way I did, people are surprised I am not surprised of the same in my relationships. To me, if they are going to cheat if I don’t don’t try to control the situation that they don’t the. I know they aren’t the person for me and I do not want to be with that person. I’d rather remain single than to compromise any of that anymore
