Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Just tell her she should do what she feels is right. She'll take it from there.

This is pretty much what I replied.

The next day she basically said:
"I have thought long and hard and I feel it is the responsible and respectful thing to do for all involved." [to buy the apartment]
I said something like. "Yes, I think its a good choice."
She went on about it being the right thing towards me and I said I didnt want to talk about it more and soon thereafter hung up.

This whole conversation, her doubt and a an additional huge amount of other communication (due to kids sickness) set me back on detachment. Today I feel I am back to where I should be though.
In regards to detachment W actually did buy the apartment but wont get access till late January....
3 more months of Corona IHS...
I shall start making the place my own! I'm not big on interior design though.

Finally hit the gym again today, such an amazing feeling! Everyone of us here should lift heavy weights!

I intend to keep off DB a bit this month, its getting addictive to follow and assist others.
Not the worst thing in the world to be reminded of DB principles and helping others though, so we'll see. smile

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021