Originally Posted by Mumin

Mid call about kids getting sick (not covid), this happens :
W- spoke to dad for a long time yesterday. About us.
W - it felt really really good to spend time together all 4 of us.
Me - I liked it too.
W- I just found out I got the apartment.
Me - that's great!
W - I don't know. It feels so final. I realized I wasn't sure when I found out.
Me-...
W - ok I will just say this.
Me-...
W - a couple of days ago when I was watching TV our song from the wedding came on. I thought to myself if Mumin comes home now it is meant to be
W - I really really wanted you to come home. But you didn't and I cried. (I came home later in the evening...)
Me - I really don't know what to say. I have to hang up now.


I agree with LH! You had so many opportunities to listen and validate here!! Suppose this is how it went:

W- spoke to dad for a long time yesterday. About us.
Me - It sounds like you needed to get some things off your chest, glad he was there for you.
W - it felt really really good to spend time together all 4 of us.
Me - It sounds like you enjoyed the family time.
W- I just found out I got the apartment.
Me - Congratulations, I understand you are probably excited about that news.
W - I don't know. It feels so final. I realized I wasn't sure when I found out.
Me- So you are feeling unsure do the finality. That is understandable.
W - ok I will just say this.
W - a couple of days ago when I was watching TV our song from the wedding came on. I thought to myself if Mumin comes home now it is meant to be
W - I really really wanted you to come home. But you didn't and I cried. (I came home later in the evening...)
Me - So your feel that if I had come home then that would have been a sign, but that since I didn't you felt sad.
Me- Hey I have to run, I have some things to take care of.
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Originally Posted by Mumin

An hour later she asked me about some paperwork she needs to buy the apartment...


Not your monkeys, not your zoo.

"I am not really up on that kind of thing, do you have any specific questions? I'll try to answer them."


M(51), W(52),D(16)
M-20, T-23 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018