Oh boy. He pretty much told you, I am trampling on your boundaries because you let me.

And he needs to be a big boy, take responsibility and do his own healing. He wants everything to be on you. This is not your job.

But he knows you won’t kick him out. And he pretty much told you that’s a reason why he is so wish washy with other woman. He knows he can do it and he still gets to stay so it gets very tempting to him.