Thank you for sharing this scout. Im trying to figure this out also, but another thing in my sitch is Hs depression- so Im always thinking about my words and action now how it will affect him psychologically. Is he using that as a crutch so I am focused on his needs? Maybe......

Now I know a lot of the things he did in our M was not okay. But he was the broken one, so I always felt like I had to be compassionate and understand him in that way. And in doing so I put my sense of self away. My feelings were not valued as much.

Anyways, again- thank you for the post.

BD: Sep 2019
H moved out: Oct 2019
3 kids under 12