I think my ex-wife is happy. She’s had a partner for 1-2 years, and went to see his family for Thanksgiving. It took her longer to recover, but it probably was closer to equal, if you consider it took me a year to decide to walk away.
It’s easy to forget the walkaway spouse’s pain and healing began earlier.
May'19 - Girlfriend of 2yrs left. Aug'19 - We became a "broken" couple (I needed validation, she screamed). Dec'19 - We gave up and went NC. Mar'20 - I've changed and she's eager for MC and us again.