Truth - he IS suffering. Sadly hes also inflicting his suffering on his family as well, but trust me: if you had the choice to be you or him in this scenario, youre much better off being you.

Dont buy into the gaslighting. Even if you were the perfect wife, hed find something to use as an excuse. One woman in her was 58 and like 130 lbs - her H told her she was too fat! My ex told me I walked too heavy - and worse than that, had taught our daughter to walk too heavy! (No, I dont have a weird gait),

And if hes doing things with her that he never did with you, well, isnt she going to be surprised when he stops wanting to do them? Because if he actually liked doing those things hed have done them a long time ago.

I know youve got a lot of responsibility in your shoulders - but this is also your time to find YOU. The you who is brave, creative, capable of great friendships and great love. Make a vision board and dream some dreams.