You posted on Newcomers and the posters are waiting for you to return to tell us more about your situation so that we can assist you.

As for posting here, you may very well get more "action" if you continue to post in Newcomers. However, I will respond here...please tell us more about yourself, your h and your marriage. If you are truly looking to file for a divorce, start searching for lawyers that may give free consultations. Talk to friends and associates who may have used a lawyer recently and see if they can provide recommendations. You can also do google searchers for lawyers and read the testimonies of previous and current clients.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.