H is a sad lost soul. Desperate and lashing out. It hurts so much when our spouse uses our apologies and admitted flaws against us. Crisis people need justifications for their actions, and they exaggerate the h3ll out of them.
He doesnít hate you, but doesnít love you. Or loves you, but not in love with you. There are lots of variations of this theme. All of them say something along those lines. All are deeply confused and really donít know why they donít love you anymore.
The hidden truth is that they donít love themselves anymore. That is a very difficult thing to face and overcome. Hence all the running and projecting upon the LBS.
His familyís response was bizarre. It does highlight why he is the way he is. Not hard to imagine some unknown trauma he had to burry when he was a child. My XWís family was similarly bizarre and cold; undoubtedly a source of future problems of crisis proportions.
You are doing very well scout. Sane, strong, and stable.
Current Me52 XW49 S23 S22 S19 D18
Oct 8/17-BD, Moves in w/OM, Leaves Kids Me49 W46 S20 S19 S16 D15 M26 T29 Dec 9/17-Legal Separation Oct 3/18-W Files Apr 6/19-Divorced