Strength has many sources, one of them is the big f** you, I will get through this, even if I have to live on ramen noodles for the next 10 years. But, when it's all said and done and the anger and bitterness has served it's purpose, then let it go.
This is what my IC says. I do worry that I'll get stuck here but I have a good support group and my family. Anger will drive people away and I don't want that.
One day, 10 years from now, when you are living in the house that you own eating the food you paid for, then you will look back on this and say "him leaving was the best thing to have happened to me" and you will mean it.
I hope you are right. Doesn't feel like this now only because its so hard. Single parent with a busy job and I just feel overwhelmed. There are good things and I cling to those.
I'd stay away from a large city job - cost of commute, time wasted commuting, longer hours surrounded by people who never move beyond 'colleague'. I meet new people every week but the count of people I consider friends is around 10.
My friends are all here at work. There are 4 here. 1 might quit and 2 will retire in 3 years so that stinks. I need to do better in the friend dept.