I have a great life and am blessed in so many ways. I don't want to purposely make her struggle as some sort of punishment for what she did. I just don't think that is the right thing to do.
I have no desire to take her back it is merely about trying to be a good human being as while there are things I probably wont understand I don't have much anger any more. I also am beyond the point of analyzing whether or not this is a good DBing strategy. I could give a $hit less what she thinks.
I have been very open and honest with the DR on my views about it. I have also encouraged her to be more compassionate towards her XH as he is going through some health issues.
I also just spent $140 bucks on 2 dozen roses for our Anniversary. When can I graduate to grocery store flowers?????