I have a great life and am blessed in so many ways. I don't want to purposely make her struggle as some sort of punishment for what she did. I just don't think that is the right thing to do.

I have no desire to take her back it is merely about trying to be a good human being as while there are things I probably wont understand I don't have much anger any more. I also am beyond the point of analyzing whether or not this is a good DBing strategy. I could give a $hit less what she thinks.

I have been very open and honest with the DR on my views about it. I have also encouraged her to be more compassionate towards her XH as he is going through some health issues.

I also just spent $140 bucks on 2 dozen roses for our Anniversary. When can I graduate to grocery store flowers?????

Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018