Thanks for the head up Jac12. Yes, Iíve suspected it for weeks but last night had confirmation. She only surrendered the info when it was absolutely obvious Iíd seen the whole chat history and knew. Last night we talked detail about the A but Iím nervous the EA is greater than the A and she wonít want to break it off (yet). She still thinks heís wonderful although of course I see an opportunistic little scumbag with no scruples. Iím going to ask her tonight about it and if she refuses Iím not ready to extend the olive branch. She will need to figure that out on her own and Iíll make it quite clear we canít heal or R unless that happens. She will need to rebuild my trust while I figure out if I can take her back.