I’m not saying you should date someone you don’t find attractive. I’m just saying putting a strict age limit on it means you are probably missing out on some older women you WOULD find attractive but aren’t meeting.

I happen to know a lot of women in their early sixties who are youthful, pretty, fit and sexy. Pretty sure if you met them you’d think so too. No, not all women that age are, but many will be, so don’t miss out on them because of pre-conceived notions. And if you were lucky enough to find one you found attractive, I think you might find the likelihood of them being more suited to what you want out of a relationship is greater than some 40 year old mom of teens.

That being said, I got a “hi, how’ve you been” email from one of my young flings today. This was a guy I had some fun with maybe 8 years ago? Definitely way too young for me and I remember asking him at the time why he was interested in spending time with me. His answer - at least partially true I think - was that I was more interesting to talk to than most women his age. (Other factors I’m sure were that I didn’t want anything from him, plus he had a weird background of growing up in a cult. )

My point being though that we remained friends, like I have with most of my lovers, and if I were single again now, I’d at least consider spending some casual dating time with him. We had a nice connection even though it wasn’t going to go anywhere. He’s Avoidant and I’m not interested in anything serious with someone that much younger, yet clearly my advanced age wasn’t an issue when it came to having fun together. And frankly, if the sexes were reversed, nobody would think much of a man my age dating a woman his age (heck, the woman my ex married was only a few years closer in age to him).

I’m just saying, you’re probably cutting yourself off from some viable dating prospects if you’re setting a cutoff point just a couple years older than yourself.