I agree with AS, I need to get control of myself. I am 4 months into this and all I can think of is what I can do to save the marriage instead of saving myself. Iíve got to focus on myself and my son. I think relaxing and having no expectations from her would do me a lot of good. Itís just taking me a long time to get there.

Boundaries will eventually be about things she says to manipulate and control me. She has done a good job of that the past 4 months and it has my self-esteem extremely low. Blaming me or suggestions of not being like other fathers are examples of things I will not listen too.