Its really hard to just stop thinking about it. I know there is a lot more heartache coming in the future. She has been remorseful at times and then switches back to angry at times.
Time will tell how she is handling it and if she continues to keep secrets from me. I was going to discuss boundaries with her tonight. she has already agreed to disclose phone passwords and all of her secretive behaviors have stopped.
I am not naive enough to know that it won't relapse and begin again. Just don't know if I can wait this out with her continuing to work with her boss. They may end up moving him or moving her before Christmas or they may do like most school systems and sweep it under the rug. Being in a small school district however, everyone knows what is going on.