I really feel that how we treat ourselves is how others treat us. by putting myself last I feel I gave my exh permission to do the same, and by extension any future partner also. this has got to change.
I did exactly this with ex, never again.
I'm glad to read you got your car back and decided to save it! I don't see many of them and they still bring a premium around here if they aren't abused. I've been thinking of following you to the dark side again and have been looking at the other flavor of Swedish meatball but probably an XC.