Oh, the kayaking doesn’t bother me at all. Friend time is so healthy. I get my share too. What bothers me is when he was rejecting me on sundays he told me Sunday's are his day to get stuff done and prepare for the week and rest because he’s so tired. I have zero insecurities about his time with his friends. The going against what he said to me is what irks me about his buddy time.
He does rise to the occasion even when I tell him how I feel and he kind of pushes back on it. Maybe he will do with too.