And when she gets pissed that I'm not willing to split time in the house let her get pissed and stand my ground?
Yes. You can't placate her right now. Just rolling over and giving her everything she wants is going to make her have even less respect for you. Don't let her decision to end the marriage inconvenience you any more than it has to.
Me: 58 w/ S16, D22, D25 Current R: 4 years Previous M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:56