Curtis, I know you are not done with your updates. However, I have noticed a pattern. You say "I am giving her space. I am letting her go to get her back. etc....." However, then you talk about snooping, confronting, asking questions and starting R talks.
You are pushing her out the door. You are cementing your fate of D.
Steve, you are spot on. I thought I was committed to giving her space on several occasions during the first few months. Then, I kept getting sucked back in to these slip ups like a vacuum. The OM caused such insecurity that I couldn’t resist the impulses at the time. I have such a deep connection with my W that I know when she lies to me as I’m sure most H do. Our intuition and hunger for the truth leads us to try and find answers. Unfortunately, as you soon read, I didn’t do better in February, it wasn’t until the beginning of March that I finally let her go and grasped the damage of my push behavior and importance of detaching.
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20
