She says that our arguments have pushed her away and thinks we have grown apart. I have thought there was someone else but I cannot confirm that there is unless I outwardly ask to see her phone and text messages. But if i'm wrong that would just add fuel to the fire.

Don't know what else to say. I thought everything was ok and then last summer it got rough and withdrawn after a big argument. Everyone has fights and we were no different. Not all the time but every couple of months over something I can't even remember what they were about.

she swears there is no one else and a good female friend that was my friend first says the same thing.

Me. 46
Her 37

Years together 10
Married 7.5

Kids 4 and 6