Davide, yep agreed and I get it. thing is not once have I sent "hey are you up/around"...i'm just doing my thing, leaving her be, not checking up on her.
and yep, i'm aware of the dynamic...and I think esp in light of what transpired this morning which I don't think was fair on her part to call me out on, i need to back off a bit more. for sure when i was cool with just going to bed and not talking with her, she came out and asked for me to call her to say good night.
LOL just like when we get BD'd, the first few weeks of a new relationship is always when you are most out of balance because of the new reality you are in.