thank you neffer. yep...on a single "my friend thinks your..." your whole life can change. so crazy to grasp how the utterly simple can be the most profound.
when i didn't want to move forward, life stepped in. really an amazing thing for me to think about.
just had a blessing come out of nowhere. to be sure neffer you are an amazing help to so many here. funny how the last words i had on my sitch before new lady showed was you saying "Insert "Kick in the a$$" emoji here". it worked! :-)