Hi Bo. Trust me on this...I was extremely hard on myself when confronting my part in the breakdown of my marriage. Extremely. I took all the blame...and then I realized a few things.

Anything I did or didn't do was never with the intent to cause harm. That mattered to me...the intent.

And I did the best I could at the time.Had I known better..I would have done better.

If you hang onto all if that, it weighs you down. It stops you from moving forward.

So..forgive yourself and make sure you aren't taking on their stuff.