Hi Gordie,
Just came across this.

You are one tough cookie (!) to have handled a looming-over your=head D with W the way you did.

I have mixed feelings re: before/after Christmas - but then again its rarely a 'real' christmas with mlc spouses anyway.

Follow your gut - I think it is guiding you very, very well!

M: 15 yrs (in 2014)
BD: 6/03/2014
Infidelity ('known' from July 2014)
Denied PA Feb 2015
2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact.
Back briefly 2017 (after family death)
Separated 2017